Books on How to Have A Better Marriage
There comes a time in every marriage when things are hard. Either by outside forces or problems within the home, these issues can cause a strain on the marital relationship that often creates a snowball effect which turns into full blown conflicts and unhappiness within the home and within ourselves. Our problems boil down to one key issue – communication. I don’t mean just talking to each other, I mean having a connection and being able to communicate feelings effectively and respectfully. My husband has a quote that he likes to say time and time again. “It’s not what you say, it’s how you say it.” Over the years that we have been married we have both learned this quote to be incredibly true. If you have found yourself living in a cycle of miscommunication, check out these books on how to have a better marriage!
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This is one of my favorite books. It’s easy to read, straight forward, and has great examples and exercises for you and your spouse. It not only opens the line of communication but also teaches you how to communicate on a deeper level, efficiently and effectively. Another wonderful thing about this book is that you can apply these same communication techniques to other loved ones such as your children.
“Placing blame in marriage is like saying, “Your side of the boat is sinking.” ” —Hank Smith
Sacred Marriage is a wonderfully written book geared towards Christian marriages. It is focused on putting God first, your spouse second, and children third. Reading through the book’s content and applying the techniques not only to your relationship with God but also creates a stronger relationship with your spouse and of course your children. Gary Chapman’s concept on marriage is based on Bible verses such as in the book of Ephesians.
Another great book by Gary Chapman is The 5 Love Languages. The books goes describes the 5 languages as: receiving gifts, quality time, words of affirmation, acts of service, and physical touch. This books goes into depth teaching you of the 5 ways the world shows love. Not every marriage has the same love languages within it and this book helps define what your love language is, what it means, and how to understand and communicate better with your spouse. It’s not only a great read but also an easy book to follow.
Although I am not a marriage counselor or have had any counseling training I do recommend these books. They’re wonderful resources for getting your marriage back on track to being happy and successful by improving your communication skills.
“Spend time with those you love. One of these days you will either say, “I wish I had,” or “I’m glad I did.” ” —Zig Ziglar